Transitions

“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.”

~John Steinbeck, East of Eden

After we were married, Parker and I honeymooned and moved to San Diego all within like two weeks.  I didn’t have a job and I was homesick. On most days, Parker would wake up early and head to work while I would stay in bed until 10:00 am with my dog Buttercup.  I would finally get up, take BC out to do her business, come back inside and sit on the couch for the next few hours eating cereal, possibly visiting the pool at some point. I didn’t know what to do with myself even though I was living in one of the most amazing cities and just down the street from the Pacific Ocean.

After a few weeks, I slowly started coming  out of my funk and instead of watching daytime television, I picked up a book. I chose East of Eden and I was instantly enamored. To this day, Steinbeck’s story is my favourite novel and I’m reading it once again, although at a much slower pace given my life as a mom of four.

I can say for sure my current “homesickness” is far deeper than when I made my first major move after college. My adult years were spent in San Diego and I feel like I grew into myself, having raised my children and put down roots with Parker.

Sometimes I miss it so much my heart aches, but I’m not 23, I’m 38 and I have four kids and I need to get my butt out of bed. I wallow, but not for too long because I know sadness and anxiety can be paralyzing.

I think about visiting San Diego in the late winter and I wonder, is it too soon?  We just left and it may feel like having to say goodbye all over again. Plus, I remember flying with four kids, in the winter, with a layover in Toronto and I feel nauseous.  I’ve always felt quite capable traveling solo with my kids, but I may have met my match, at least until it warms up or if I can enlist an adult traveling companion.  Presently taking applications…

I’m grateful my best friend Alisha is coming to visit us in March. She’s leaving frigid Minnesota for a somewhat less cold Nova Scotia and I couldn’t be more appreciative. My best friend is the bestest.

Until then, I’m focusing on the good that is to become. I’m grateful I live by the Atlantic Ocean, in a beautiful province where lots of new memories and connections will be made.

5 thoughts on “Transitions

  1. Betsy – your strength and humor amaze me! You are living the plot that would make a great novel someday. Maybe East of El Cajon is the modern day sister novel to East of Eden 🙂 Treasure the memories and know that you are teaching your kids amazing adaptation skills that can’t be replicated through any app or social media post 🙂 BTW, Petra has MASTERED a canadian accent. I’m going to send you a video and you will CRACK. UP. Don’t you know… 🙂

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  2. East of Eden is such a good book! Your blog is so fun to read and hopefully a good outlet for you. Be gentle with yourself through this transition. Hopefully spring and your new house will bring renewed energy and excitement!

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  3. Hi Betsy, I appreciate your honesty and your humor. I believe in being sad and homesick. I also believe in the importance of blooming where you are planted. San Diego isn’t going anywhere so come back as often as you like! Oh Nova Scotia, look out! Betsy Larson has arrived!! Hugs to you! Jen

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