“You want to know what it’s like to have a fourth? Just imagine you’re drowning, and then someone hands you a baby.”
The biggest challenge in having four kids is finding time…there is never enough. Giving one child your undivided attention even for a short moment requires a balance that is sometimes hard to achieve.
As difficult as it can feel, Parker and I try our best to find solutions and carve out special time with each child.
In terms of special, I don’t mean anything extravagant…just putting in the time as we like to say. After all, our kids’ major love language is quality time.
Here’s some information on The Five Love Languages.
A note on this theory…I’ve never read the actual Love Language books but I have read plenty about it online and I have taken multiple tests which basically makes me an expert.
If you’re interested, my top love language is acts of service and Parker’s is physical touch. Opposites attract, although each of us would say quality time is a close second.
I’ve gone on a tangent but you get it; it’s important to have uncomplicated moments with your kids.
As I write this, Parker is traveling for work, my two oldest are sick, Soren wants me to look at the Minecraft house he built and Ellinor is kicking Soren in the face because she wants to be the only one near me on the couch.
Quality Time. It’s not as easy at it seems, but when it does happen, it’s the best.
Garage hockey and lifting pucks with Dad.
Going to the play place with Mom. I’d like to note the joy and enthusiasm Ellinor exhibited this day was heartwarming and also served as a reminder we need to get out more.
Elsa and Mom watching cooking shows and cooking together.
Sophie and Dad watching all the best movies from the 80’s and 90’s.
If you’re wondering, Honey’s Love Languages are words of affirmation and physical touch.