I’ve taken somewhat of a social media cleanse. I login to wish people a happy birthday, see if anyone got married or had babies, look at my Facebook memories and promptly sign off.
Those memories though…I love to see them, but at the same time they deliver a punch to the gut.
More than ever, I find myself resting in nostalgia and I wonder, is this good for me?
I found this New York Times article and it resonated with me, particularly Dr. Sedikides, saying “I told him I did live my life forward, but sometimes I couldn’t help thinking about the past, and it was rewarding,” he says. “Nostalgia made me feel that my life had roots and continuity. It made me feel good about myself and my relationships. It provided a texture to my life and gave me strength to move forward.”
Identified by Johannes Hofer, Nostos in Greek, and the accompanying pain algos, nostalgia at one time was considered a disorder.
But, times have changed.
According to Dr. Art Markman Ph.D, “nostalgia can play a beneficial role in people’s lives. When times are tough, it may seem as though things may never get better. By focusing on positive times from the past, though, people may help themselves to be more connected to others, which can give them the resources to be more optimistic about the future.”
I hope that’s what I’m doing.
So, back to those Facebook memories.
Soren is 7 today.
My favorite boy in the whole wide world.
I’m grateful to celebrate Soren today. Soren’s happiness, ultimately makes us merrier.
To the kindest, funniest and happiest boy I know…happy birthday Soren!